your attention is precious
whole digital world is competing for it
be mindful with it
30 Sep 2022
Know yourself thoroughly. The Emotional side thrives on ignorance. The moment you are aware of how it operates and dominates you is the moment it loses its hold on you and can be tamed. First step toward the rational is always inward. Awareness precedes control. You must retlect on how you operate under stress. What weaknesses come out in such moments? the desire to please, bully or control, deep levels of mistrust? Look at your decisions, especially those that
can you see a pattern, an underlying insecurity that impels them? Examine your strengths. What makes you different from other people? This will help you decide upon goals that mesh with your long term interests and that are aligned with your skills. By knowing and valuing what marks you as different, you will also be able to resist the pull of the group bias and effect.
Examine your emotions to their roots. Emotions are information. For instance anger is an expression of hurt. Let the feeling settle from within and think about it. Was it triggered by? That is a sure sign that something or someone else is behind it.. What is it telling you. Talk about it. Listen. The goal is not to reject emotions. it is to understand and not to insta react to them but do so mindfully with intention of the outcome. All emotions are flags of information we can collect and analyze. You need to look it in the eye. Dig below any trigger points to see where it started. Journaling in which you record your self assessments with ruthless objectivity. Your greatest danger here is your ego and how it makes you unconsciously maintain illusions about yourself. These may be comforting in the moment but in the long run they make you detensive and unable to learn progress. Find a neutral position from which you can observe your actions with a bit of detachment and even humor. Soon all of this will become second nature and when the emotional self suddenly rears its head in some situation, you will see it as it happens and be able to step back and find that neutral position.
Increase our reaction time. This comes through practice and repetition. When some event or interaction requires a response, you must train yourself to step back. This could mean physically removing yourself to a place where vou can be alone and not feel any pressure to respond. Or it could mean writing that angry email but not sending it. You sleep on it for a day or two. MASTER YOUR EMOTIONAL SELF
Cool the emotions down. The longer you can take the better, because perspective comes with time. Consider this like resistance training: the longer you can resist reacting, the more mental space you have for actual retlection, and the stronger your mind will become.
Accept people as they are. Interactions with people are the major source of emotional turmoil, but it doesnt have to be that wav. The problem is that we are continually judging people, wishing they were something that they are not. We want to change them. We want them to think and act a certain way. Most often the way we think and act. And because this is not possible, because every one is different, we are continually trustrated and upset. Instead see other people as phenomena, as neutral as stars or plants. They simply exist. They come in all varieties making life rich and interesting. Work with what they give you instead of resisting and trying to change them. Make understanding people fun game, the solving of puzzles. It is all part of the human comedy. Find the optimal balance of thinking and emotion. We cannot divorce emotions from thinking. The two are completely intertwined. But there is inevitably a dominant factor. Some people more clearly governed by emotions than others. What we are looking for is the proper ratio and balance, the one that leads to clear mind and most effective action. You want to retain the elasticity of spirit you had as a child, interested in everything while retaining the hard nosed need to verify and scrutinize for yourself all ideas and beliefs. The two can coexist. It is a balance that all geniuses possess
16 Sep 2022
Please be mindful about the resources you use. Simple things like reducing waste|recycling, consciously turning the lights off|on, not using disposable plastic products would make a difference if everyone starts with a small change. Consume more home produced|farmers food. It is better for your health and you won’t be supporting big companies C02 emissions. Even if you don’t believe in climate change, don’t you want to breathe cleaner air and enjoy the beautiful nature that humans destroy with industrial processes. Desaturating big urban cities and living more spread out from each other yet closer to nature is a healthier option. Help plant and preserve greenery and oceans that produce most of the oxygen. Consider switching to electric vehicles. It is not an ideal solution but the amount of C02 and noise reduction is significant to help clean up the planet we polluted. Lastly do not leave a mark unless you think it will make the space around better
10 Sep 2022
Like many people you may assume that if something happens to you – the event makes you feel a certain way. If your friend treats you inconsiderately – you may think she makes you angry. Then you deduce her inconsiderate behaviour makes you behave in a particular way like sulking or refusing to speak for hours. But your thinking and beliefs lie between the event and your feelings and actions. Your thoughts, beliefs and the meanings that you give to an event produce your emotional and behavioural responses. So your friend does not actually make you angry. Rather she behaves inconsiderately and you assign a meaning to her behaviour like ‘she’s doing this deliberately to upset me’ therefore making yourself angry. The meaning you attach to any sort of event influences the emotional responses you have to that event. Positive events normally lead to positive feelings of happiness or excitement and negative ones to sadness or anxiety etc. However the meanings you attach negative events may not be wholly accurate or helpful. Sometimes your thinking may lead you to assign extreme meanings to events, leaving you feeling bad. The ways you think and feel also largely determine the way you act. If you feel depressed – you’re likely to withdraw and isolate yourself. If you’re anxious – you may avoid situations that you find threatening or dangerous. Your behaviours can be problematic for you in many ways. Self destructive such as excessive drinking or using drugs to quiten anxiety. Isolating such as staying in bed all day or notsocializing increase your sense of isolation and maintain your low mood. Avoidance such as avoiding situations you perceive as threatening (attending a social outing, using a lift, speaking in public) deprive you of the opportunity to confront and overcome your fears.
Anything that causes a massive dopamine spike will also cause a crash after as you deplete the raw materials to make dopamine. Seesaw mechanism. Imagine being on social media and getting lots of engagement swiping on ig | twitter | tiktok and such. The spike is fine but you have to be careful what you do next. When dopamine crashes this is when you’ll find yourself mindlessly scrolling to get back but all this does is deplete dopamine more and make you feel worse. When you are done you need to step away, hide your phone if you have to feel the impulse or urge to go on it but just sit with it or go on a walk instead. Your dopamine will naturally recover and you’ll feel okay soon. If you don’t do this, you’ll get into a bad spiral of nothing being motivating and life feeling dull. Restore your volatile levels of dopamine to their base. Balance is all